My challenges to starting a blog
If you are pursuing any new adventure in your life, whether it be blogging or something else, and you are experiencing difficulties, roadblocks, struggles, you are not alone. We all struggle with some of these challenges at one time or another in our lives. They can be overcome and you can go after what you desire. It won’t be easy and it takes work, but it can be done. Trust me, I am an introvert that really never shares too much of her life, struggles, problems, I never wanted to show my imperfections, so if I can overcome them by starting this blog, I promise you can do what its is you want to do.
- No experience – I never read many blogs, so had no clue how to even start one
- No knowledge – no concept of blogging, how to do it, what to say
- Feeling lost – I didn’t know where to begin
- Overwhelm – quickly experienced information overload once I started researching
- Distractions – I would try to focus but would keep browsing online instead of taking action
- Self-doubt – who am I to start a blog, what do I know, I will never be able to do that
- Unworthy – I’m not enough, I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough
- Nothing unique -There are so many other blogs out there what’s the point
- Comparison – to other bloggers, blogs; mine will never look that good, I don’t know as much as they do
- Fear – of failure, criticism, being out of my comfort zone, being too busy
- Guilt – that I was taking time away from other things
- No vision – I had no vision at first of what I really wanted to do
- No time – I don’t have enough of it
- No belief – I didn’t believe in myself. I can’t do this. Who’s going to read it
- Perfectionism – I felt like everything needed to be perfect before anyone could see it
- Comfort zone – It feels pretty comfy where I’m at why put myself through all of this! I can’t show anyone things I write
- No confidence – I can’t share myself with anyone, I’m too shy
- Shame – I thought the definition here would be best; a painful feeling of humiliation caused by the awareness of wrong or foolish behavior.
- Stuck – I felt stuck at times like I was getting nowhere, like I was stuck in the mud and my goals were just running around, I could see them, but I couldn’t seem to achieve them. There would be times that my mind would go blank, I would sit down ready to go and have nothing to say.
- No Motivation – I just kept getting nowhere. It was easier to just sit and browse online. I told myself I was doing something useful, but really I was just wasting time, not getting the work done, procrastinating, not taking action because I was letting the fear and all the other challenges hold be back.
What is the story you tell yourself?
All of these challenges I was having were because of my self-limiting beliefs about myself or symptoms of those beliefs. They are self-limiting because they cause me to limit what I think I can do and I am the one that made these beliefs up = “self-limiting”. They all come from the story I was telling myself; the belief patterns, the habits, that we do without even realizing it or giving it any thought.
Most of them are based on either; genetics (family beliefs passed down), circumstances, something that happened to us, or maybe something someone said to us at a young age and we formed our beliefs about ourselves around these events or circumstance. They were formed then and we’ve believed them to be true and worst yet we tell ourselves this story over and over. Basically a negative dialog/self-talk that goes on and on, over and over in our minds and we don’t even try to control. Most don’t even think about the fact that you have complete control of your thoughts. Think about it like this, if you have the ability to tell yourself this negative self-talk; the bad, disempowering story, then you also have the ability to tell yourself a positive, good, empowering story. Click here to read more about the stories we tell ourselves and how we can change them (coming soon)
We down right put ourselves down. Would we talk to our children this way, our best friend, someone we love? No we wouldn’t, so we need to quit doing it to ourselves.
All of the self-limiting beliefs are lies. We are telling ourselves a false story about ourselves. We have to on purpose, intentionally change the stories to the truth.
We hang on to these stories because we believe they are our truths, that they are who we are and we hang on to them out of comfort. They are our comfort zone and we are afraid to step out into the unknown.
Life is supposed to be beautiful, enjoyable, and fun. The only thing that is preventing the beauty and the enjoyment of our lives is our sabotaging belief system, the story we tell ourselves. If we let go of the resistance to changing our stories and embrace the fact that life is supposed to be good for us, then everything is possible.
The quality of your life is in direct proportion of the quality of thoughts you have on a consistent basis. (Anthony Robbins)
When you tell yourself a lie long enough you start to believe it. These stories, these beliefs are sabotaging damaging, limiting, holding us back, slowly destroying our spirit, making us un-happy, causing us to not fully live. The stories that disempower us will destroy us.
I wasn’t taking action on my new adventure (this blog) because of fear caused by the false beliefs that I believed about myself. I wasn’t moving forward because of my f**ked up stories.
Simply stated: If you don’t like the story you’re living, only you can change it. You are the creator & author of your own life. You may not have written the beginning of the story, but you have the power to choose the ending and write the next chapter.
The first step was I made a decision to change my story. I am re-writing the next chapter and creating a new story about myself.
The best way to overcome them is to have something that keeps pushing you, when you feel like giving up, when you feel like quitting because any of the above stated challenges will get the best of you, you need a driving force. This something that will push you, this driving force, it’s your reason for doing whatever it is that you want to do. What is your why? Why do you want to do this new thing in your life? Why do you get up every morning? What is the reason you keep on going?
Make it powerful, emotional, when you read it you feel it.
My Why, my driving force (click here) is my family. My why are my daughters. I want to become the best version of myself so that I can help and inspire them to become there best. I want to empower them to live life to the fullest and do what they love in life. Also read more about Why I started a blog
Write down your why and read it several times every day.
Now figure out your what. What do you want? What is this new adventure you are pursuing? Be very clear on your what? Hold this vision in your mind of your what. Go into the future and use your imagination to see yourself already doing it, already successful with it, you see yourself overcoming all challenges, feeling happy, alive, fully living your unlived life. You see yourself going after your dreams, your desires.
Hold that vision. Now have faith, believe in it. Believe in yourself. Faith is simply believing in the not yet seen.
Write down your what and read it several times every day. Tell yourself ‘It is Possible’
Continue reading this blog post: How to Overcome the Top 20 Reasons People Never Start Something New
P.S. Join me on social media or contact me if you have any questions. Maybe your on a similar journey and you need help, I will do what I can with what I’ve learned if you do.
Sometimes we just need a wake-up call; a no non-sense, get up and take action wakeup call! Click here if you need that motivation!